Accept Responsibility for your Actions
Disclaimer: The story I’m about to tell is not mine but was gotten from www.moralstories.org
Once upon a time, an old man spread rumours that his neighbour was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent. After being released, the man felt humiliated as he walked to his home. He sued the old man for wrongly accusing him.
In court, the old man told the Judge, “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone.” The judge, before passing sentence on the case, told the old man, “Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to Hear the sentence”.
The next day, the judge told the old man, “Before receiving the Sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday”. The old man said, “I can’t do that! The wind must have spreads them and I won’t Know where to find them”.
The judge then replied, “The same way, simple comments may destroy the honour of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. The old man realized his mistake and asked for forgiveness”.
The statement made by the old man is the focus of this post. “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone”. The rumour the old man had spread had done a lot of damage to his neighbour. He humiliated his neighbor. When taken to court, instead of the old man to accept that what he had done was wrong, instead of him to take responsibility for his wrong action, he decided to deflect it. He wanted to put it in such a way that no matter how anyone saw it, it wasn’t his fault. Hence “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone”. The funny thing is that, he didn’t accept he was wrong until he got a demonstration (with the paper by the judge). Thank God sef he even realized his mistake and asked for forgiveness.
There are lots of us like the old man. We can’t accept responsibility for the things we have done. Instead we look for someone else to blame. We make up flimsy excuses to justify why we shouldn’t be responsible for anything. That’s just wrong. If you did something wrong, don’t become so defensive, looking for who to pin your wrong doing on. It’s selfish and speaks badly of you. There’s nothing wrong with making your wrong right and apologizing too. It’s that simple.
In the story, it’s the old man not taking responsibility for his actions of spreading rumour which caused the humiliation of his neighbour. A few examples are; punishing people because you were punished; you not taking care of another man’s thing because you feel it’s not yours. Therefore there is no sense of responsibility. One example I hear of is parents not caring about their kid’s welfare or school fees because in their own time, they didn’t have anyone to take them to school or because they paid their own school fees, so they feel their kids must do same. For goodness sake, take care of your kids, they are your responsibility. It’s one thing when there’s no money to take care of them, it’s another thing when you lazy around and just refuse to take care of your kids.
In conclusion, whatever it is you do, wrong, right, whatsoever, take responsibility for your actions and stop making up excuses. It’s no one’s fault. Don’t blame John, don’t blame Janet don’t blame your mom, don’t blame your dad, don’t blame your society, don’t blame anyone!
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19 thoughts on “Accept Responsibility for your Actions”
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Word! This sickness is a human problem deep one.
If Prophet Nathan in the Bible approached David and said “oh King you have sinned and fallen short of glory repent for the adultery” David wouldn’t have repented but when the King told him a story he said that man deserves to die.
It’s human to avoid our mistakes but like you’ve said we should take responsibility.
Thank you Nakas
You know, that could be true about King David. But the good thing is even after being told he was the man, he didn’t say, I’m the king, and so? But he humbled himself and repented.
Yea, humans, including me don’t like accepting we have made mistakes. I really dunno if it’s pride and the feeling of I can’t be wrong. But it’s good we learn.
Anyway, thanks for reading dear.
This is so accurate. Situations like been happening since Adam and Eve.
Passing the blame makes you look twice as guilty.
This story was an good analogy
Thanks for sharing
Yeah, that’s true. Thank you dear for the comment.
Until we truly learn to be selfless and not selfish, the habit of responsibility will be a difficult one to attain and maintain. The misconception is that most people think that responsibility is a selfish habit and not a selfless habit. The greatest commandment is about love. When you love yourself enough, automatically you take charge of your life. When you love people as much as you love yourself, you would do for that person what you would do for yourself. Example you encourage when a person is discouraged, help when a person is helpless, be cheerful when the person is sad etc but the responsibility isn’t to yourself, its to that person cos you have a relationship with that person whether friend, coursemate, workmate, sibling,child or whatever. That’s why i say its a selfless and not a selfish habit. When you are selfless, deep down you’ll be more responsible for yourself even before others honestly but you’ll never neglect them. Great post Nakas 🙂
Just learned something new. Thanks Nnifer.
Something learnt, responsibility is a selfless habit
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Lovely post dear
I believe that most times, people know they are wrong. But admitting to it means losing or shows weakness. That’s the reason everyone tries to get so defensive….if only they know…
I agree with that. We sometimes feel admitting means losing or weakness. Thank you dear, I appreciate the comment
Thank so much for the post. I really enjoyed it because it talked about taking responsibility for our actions. Something we as Christians don’t do as often as we should.
Thank you dear. I’m glad you liked it ?
Awesome post and great story. There is a yoruba adage that translates as if everyone cleans the front of their house, the community will be clean. I honestly feel more people should learn to be responsible. Nd stop the blame game. God job Nakas. http://www.hephzybee.com
Thanks dear. That’s true about the adage. Thanks for the comment ?
Thanks dear ??