Have things happened to you and you wonder what’s wrong with you or why things are just against you?
Well, I have.
I feel like I’m on a journey. I know everyone is but there are times you feel like you’re being taught certain things so you’re better prepared for more on the journey ahead. This is how I feel.
Since the ending of last year till now, the Holy Spirit has been dealing with me concerning different things but they are mostly related to the mind, mindset and perception.
One He has helped me with (still does) is in the aspect of not taking things personally.
I used to be a big over thinker (another thing the Holy Spirit is dealing with) and I’d think I caused someone to respond in a certain way or to do certain things. Now I think about it, it’s a bit crazy but it’s the truth.
Someone will ignore me and I’d think I did something wrong forgetting that the person might have been busy or forgot to respond or is just dealing with something other than me.
I personally think overthinking and insecurities are great contributing factors to taking things personally.
See, things happen, people react somehow and you might not be the cause of it. Someone can say no to you and it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. Sometimes you have to try as much as possible to remove the emotion and be logical about it.
Someone said no to your offer and it could be because it’s not a good fit for them or they are not ready or your offer was missing something. Instead of sulking and feeling like the world is against you, move on. If you see your offer was rejected because you didn’t do some things well, then work on those things so that next time it works out.
People don’t think about other people o, they think of themselves. Rejecting what you’re offering is more about their needs than yours and so if your offer isn’t good enough, it’s not you, it’s just that the offer isn’t working for them. Therefore, if another person had presented your offer/pitch, they still would have rejected it. It’s not personal.
Some people get on your nerves and sometimes it’s not like they intentionally want to frustrate you. It could be a response to something more going on with them; whether major or minor things. It can be annoying but try not to think someone just wants to frustrate you (except they truly do, which happens). Most times, they don’t, it only happens to look that way.
A few weeks ago, I realized something. I sent someone a message that needed acknowledgment and it wasn’t responded to. When I realized this, I was happy to know that I didn’t even notice and it didn’t bother me. That’s progress to me.
My message to you is, try as much as possible to view things from a different perspective. Most times, it’s not about you. If you’re always thinking people are always thinking about you then it’s a problem you might have to deal with. It stems from a place of anxiety, overthinking and insecurities. If it’s not any of those, then you’re probably full of yourself and might not know it.
Except it’s truly personal (lol, please don’t be confused), don’t take things personally.