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Hi, I’m Odinakachukwu Ndukwe. I love observing people and the reason they behave the way they do. I’m fascinated about the broad topic of life, so I’m mostly in my head. My blog is a way to share what I learn and to help you and me both to understand ourselves better. Welcome to my blog.

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Did you know that some of the problems and misunde

Did you know that some of the problems and misunderstanding we have are mainly due to communication problems.

Many of us think we can communicate but some of us don’t actually know how to.

We think communication is by just saying something or giving instructions but it’s much more than that.

I will be hosting an effective communication class. The main aim of the class is to learn to communicate appropriately and to do so in a way that helps grow your relationships and resolve intending conflicts.

You’ll be learning
- What clear effective communication is and what it’s not
- What it means to be an engaged listener
- How to identify your and other people’s communication styles & needs and what to do with that information
- How to communicate more effectively in person and through other medium
- What non-verbal communication is and how to recognize body languages
- What it means to be assertive and how to do so effectively

The class will be held for 3 days, from Saturday, August 8th to August 10th and the registration fee is 1500 Naira. Swipe for more details.

If you’re interested, DM me. If you know someone that would be interested in this, please share also.

#TheRoyalDeviant #EffectiveCommunication

We often see the world through the lens of our own

We often see the world through the lens of our own experiences, personality and beliefs.

Not that it’s a bad thing on its own but sometimes it allows close mindedness and we become full of judgments.

Sometimes we need to understand that people were not brought up the way we were and neither do they have the opportunity or kind of experience we have.

I can’t say you should try not to make your experiences, personality and beliefs affect how you perceive things. No. That’s going to be really hard. I simply want you to understand that sometimes you can be biased and judgmental about certain things. Being aware of this would help you in your communication and understanding of others and it can also make you know how you might help or support them and even yourself.

#theroyaldeviant #thinkingoutloud

Lately I’ve been involved in a few things that I

Lately I’ve been involved in a few things that I consider as important to me and I’m proud of myself. However I feel scared, maybe because I’m leaving my comfort zone. Just recently I haven’t been feeling motivated enough but I know that I should keep on. If I wait for motivation, I might not get anything done.

I also have questions about this life I wish I had answers to them but I think I’m trying to get comfortable with the fact that I might not get answers until I’m gone.

Anyway, how are you doing? Also, I’d appreciate a prayer. Thanks 🙏

#theroyaldeviant

Comparison I believe, is inevitable so I’m not g

Comparison I believe, is inevitable so I’m not going to say don’t compare (even though that’s true) yourself with others. However when you do compare, know that things are not exactly as you see them.

People have been through different stages of life and are now enjoying hard work and consistency whereas you’re starting out and even if you’re not, you might not have put in as much dedication.

Also know that sometimes people exaggerate what’s going on with them making it look like things are greater than they are. Don’t fall for it.

Finally, go easy on yourself. You know the complete (100%) fact about your situation and you see your flaws and struggles whereas you only see what people make you see and you take that small percentage and compare with yours? That’s not fair.

Besides, you might actually have made progress but you’re looking for one gigantic thing.

Be grateful for where you are now. Life is even more than some of the things we make it to be. Live, laugh, experience life. Seek to be better and don’t be pressured to keep up with who you think you’re supposed to be or who you think people think you’re supposed to be.

Get to know who you are and be better. Be useful to people in this world even if it’s one. Touch that life!

#theroyaldeviant

Before I go on further, I would like you to unders

Before I go on further, I would like you to understand that the being different I’m referring to, doesn’t mean evil or bad attitude and behavior (there’s nothing amazing about bad attitudes). I’m simply referring to you being different from the normal things others do and are interested in that is not necessarily bad. I am also referring to good different; where you’re doing something good and commendable in the midst of others who aren’t.

Sometimes being different can make you uncomfortable. I know it makes me feel that way sometimes. However, everyone isn’t the same and I think that makes life quite interesting.

If you’re not into football and your peers are into it, it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
If you’re not into a particular hobby and others are, you’re fine, there’s nothing wrong with you.
If everyone is doing something wrong and you decide to do the right thing, it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Sometimes people don’t know it but they put pressure on people that are different and make them feel like they’re not fine or normal.

However different you are, embrace it and with time, people will be okay with it.

If you’re standing for right whilst everyone is doing the wrong thing, don’t be discouraged. You’re not alone.

You’re fine and you’re loved❤️

3 quirky things about me • I can't sleep on a be

3 quirky things about me
• I can't sleep on a bed that isn't well laid, except I'm so tired and sleepy, if not, the sleep won't come. Its the reason I don't like sharing a bed with someone, particularly someone that can sleep however the bed is.
• I'm the queen of dry jokes in my house 😂 What I love about it is that people still laugh because it's so dry. Every time, I outdo myself with new ones and I'm so proud of myself 😂 but I'm funny you guys.
• I love whistling and I whistle a lot.

So, how about you? Mention one quirky thing about you.

BTW, this is a throwback picture. It was taken in 2018. I particularly love this picture because of my smile. Saw it in my photos and thought, why not? Today is Thursday right? 📷 @ms__nnifer

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