It’s always refreshing to see people do the stuff that makes you sometimes think you’re weird or not okay. This is why people should share often.
I was watching a TV morning show this morning and one of the talkshow hosts mentioned how she’s not a crowd person. She talked about how she likes her space and sometimes can be misunderstood as being too serious, proud or not fun.
She further mentioned that sometimes when she has people in her house, she starts thinking of how she’s going to deal with conversations (gists) and responding to people when they are trying to have a conversation. She said she can watch a movie with them in silence and gist occasionally, but to be in that constant mood of talking, it just drains her and she dreads it.
Finally, she mentioned how she has to mentally prepare herself when she’s sleeping over at a friend’s place or having a sleepover. She thinks of conversations that could come up and how she can sustain it and also seem lively.
As she said all these, it felt so good to hear because this is me!! I could relate a hundred percent!
It’s not that we don’t like people, no. It’s just that we’re reserved and people expect us to act in a “social” kind of way and that takes a lot of mental preparedness and we end up drained after all that.
You can meet me in a lively way in a meeting or hang out and in the evening, you’d probably ask me if I’m okay or if something is wrong. Nothing is wrong, it’s just me feeling drained.
Anyway, it was great to hear that lady say those things. I felt less weird and guilty because sometimes I feel bad about being like this. Truth is, it’s a personality thing and I’m not making excuses because just like her, I also try to be “lively” or “social” but at the core, I’m just a reserved person.
Oh and people think reserved people are boring or shy. Well, I see why people would think that but I can assure you that if you’re close to a reserved person, you’d know that’s not true, except you have a peculiar case.
I’m also grateful for my friends that have come to know and understand me. It’s such a blessing to just be. My friends can sleep over at my house and won’t ever ask me if I’m okay, or why I’m not talking or why I’m quiet (not that I’m quiet hundred percent of the time, I’m also loud sometimes 😂). Some of them did in the beginning but as time went by, they understood that’s how I am. Thank you guys.
Anyway, that’s it for today. If you can relate to all I’ve said, I’d love to know in the comment section.
Remember, be a light in your space 💫
2 thoughts on “02/09/2022”
This is so me sometimes. . .I’m the reserved type and it sometimes makes people uncomfortable around. They think I don’t people. There was one time, someone wanted to approach me ostensibly to have a conversation but didn’t courage to. He thought I was unapproachable. So he spoke to someone who was close to me and the said close person got in touch. When I heard it, I opened up to him and welcome him into my life. Through few moments and or encounters, he realized I wasn’t who he thought I was. He had misjudged!
Your story is so relatable. I get that a lot. I’m even told to smile all the time😂 but tbh, I understand why people might feel we’re not that friendly.
At the same time, I want people to know that sometimes they are wrong and people are naturally that way, they really can’t help it, except consciously. Sometimes I try to look “approachable”, other times, I’m just tired or going through stuff that I forget to put on my “approachable” face. All that is a lot of effort.
Thank you John for sharing.